tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1094286976530830699.post305983775087351623..comments2023-10-30T05:24:27.689-05:00Comments on A Spirit of Hope: choosingKarinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08833731913192813213noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1094286976530830699.post-23624738003940020112010-05-25T17:14:01.553-05:002010-05-25T17:14:01.553-05:00I think it's great when you can start to feel ...I think it's great when you can start to feel the happiness again and have more good days than bad days. We all deserve that. It's what our babies would want for us. And there are bound to be hard days still because we miss them so much.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1094286976530830699.post-21264036498842057972010-05-25T10:09:13.568-05:002010-05-25T10:09:13.568-05:00So very beautifull written! A dear friend, who al...So very beautifull written! A dear friend, who also lost a baby told me, right after we lost Ella Grace, "It never gets 'better' but it does get bearable." I think that must be where you are. It hasn't gone away and you haven't moved on, but you are moving forward and the pain is becoming bearable! That's good!Britthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03453298373390957941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1094286976530830699.post-16752327630214756912010-05-25T08:50:39.894-05:002010-05-25T08:50:39.894-05:00It's very hard to have even a minute when you ...It's very hard to have even a minute when you feel like a little of your 'old self' again. You feel like you are betraying who you are now--a mother without her children. It's not reality, it's just how you feel.<br /><br />And it stinks! I just try to remember that for everything, there is a season. And though seasons change, eventually, they come back. So, it's okay and normal to have a bright spring and summer...and when winter comes around, as it inevitably does and always will, it's ok to feel what winter brings, knowing that there's going to be spring again. Sort of like that whole grief cycle--it's a big circle.<br /><br />Lots and lots of love to you dear friend!! xoxoLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1094286976530830699.post-68525035596599724622010-05-25T08:15:57.045-05:002010-05-25T08:15:57.045-05:00I remember struggling so much when I first started...I remember struggling so much when I first started to feel happy again. I thought I was doing Madelyn a disservice by not living in a constant state of grief and depression. Then I realized the opposite was true. The best gift I could give to Madelyn and her memory was to BE happy. While losing her broke my heart to pieces, I still had her. And having her was a beautiful, joyous gift. When I made that connection, it made a world of difference in my perspective.<br /><br />Thinking of you, and very happy that you are feeling more in control of your life!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com